Guide to Anal Play


Anal has long been one of the biggest taboos surrounding sex, with myths about it constantly being spread, without anyone really knowing the facts. Anal play, when done safely, is fun and opens up a whole new world of ways to spice up your sex life, no matter what genders you and your partner identify as.

The biggest fear people have when it comes to doing butt stuff is the pain. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it should NOT hurt, or cause any kind of bleeding or injury – if this happens then stop immediately and seek medical attention. Time is the key when it comes to pleasurable anal play – make like a snail and take it slowly! Load up on lube too, as unlike the vagina, the anus does not lubricate itself, so whether you’re using toys, fingers, or genitals to penetrate – make sure you’re slicked up!


Anal Beads

Beads are the easiest way to get into this kind of play. Tapered at the bottom, then increasing in size, you can slowly decide how much of this you can or want to insert. Perfect for getting you used to the sensation of that are being stretched, this is a must have beginners item.

Butt Plugs

Like the beads, plugs help to stretch the anus, almost “warming it up” for larger insertion later. You can get a variety of sizes, shapes, and materials so make sure you do your research first and don’t jump the gun and do yourself a mischief! You can also wear a plug for extended amounts of time, so are great for kinky challenges (e.g Wear your plug out for 3 hours, etc) and they come in many different looks, perfect for those who love a bit of glam!

Butt Plugs (Inflatable)

You rubber and inflatable lovers out there aren’t left out either, as these plugs bring a whole new sensation to anal play. You or your partner can take control of the pump, gradually increasing the size of the plug for an intense feeling of fullness. Kinky rubber torture at its finest.


Butt Plugs (Vibrating) and Male Prostate Toys

Like traditional vibrators, anal vibes are designed to hit all the right places, and send waves of pleasure through your entire body. Anal play is where you fellas really get lucky, as you have the prostate (also known as the male g spot) located, and specially designed massagers stimulate this area and give you orgasms like you’ve never felt before.



Anal Dildos and Strap Ons

Strap on dildos aren’t just useful for those in partnerships where both have vaginas, but are amazing for anal play too! Pegging is term for when someone without a penis uses a strapon to penetrate their partner (who has a penis) anally. This is a great method of role reversal, and can be very useful in power play, specifically FemDom.



Although it is not essential, you may want to clean up your anal area to make sure there is no messy accidents (although it’s nothing to be ashamed of, we’re all human!). The best way to do this is to use a douche, which you use to send streams of water up the anal passage. This can also be turned into a pleasurable experience through using textured nozzles – and who wouldn’t want as much pleasure as they can get!?


So remember, when it comes down to anal play, take your time! There’s absolutely no rush, and always use lots of lube – too much is never enough! Now, I’m sure you’ve got plenty of ideas to keep you going until your next lesson in the basics of BDSM…