I think my husband is faking orgasms, should I ask him if he is? We have pretty regular sex which is good but recently I’ve just had this feeling that he’s been faking it because it seems too early but he wears a condom so I can’t really tell.
Carol, 45, London
Well there are two main things to consider here: is he actually faking them? If so, why?
So to work out if he’s faking them, as long as you’re sure you’re both sexually healthy, suggest having sex without a condom, I don’t need to explain how that would answer the question definitively.
Although if he’s defensive about this I wouldn’t take that as proof he’s faking them, it may well be that he genuinely is coming early and he feels that keeping the condom on helps him last a little.
If you’re sure he’s faking it, there are many reasons this could potentially be, from alcohol use, tiredness or lack of sensitivity to things like un-indulged fantasies or a desire to explore more in the bedroom.
Once you ask about having sex without a condom you should try and get more inventive and exciting in the bedroom, ask him what his wildest fantasy is and try your best to create and and see what happens. Explore sex toys and costumes to see how you might be able to spice things up a little!
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