Here at Honour we have always received enquiries about bondage. In the last year or so (and as our range of bondage products has grown) the number of people seeking advice and guidance has grown drastically. Bondage has become an interesting addition to the sex lives and experimentation of all types of people. With that in mind we repost this piece from 2013 – Hey! We were obviously ahead of the curve.
Bondage for Beginners, Communication is Key! Let me rephrase. Communication before hand is key. Because once you’re gagged, you’re gagged. If you’ve never been tied up or tied someone else up before, you can’t be sure how you’ll feel about it until you’re actually in a vulnerable position or putting someone else in one.
Where you may like the idea of damsel in distress, when your hands are actually tied and you can’t free them to scratch your nose or other tickly bits, you might not feel like playing a role. You might decide you don’t like
With thousands of people now regularly enjoying the wonderful world of soft bondage (and just as many enjoying the world of the harder version), it is an exciting time for many couples who no longer have to feel embarrassed or shy about bringing up the subject.
Many of us fantasise about being tied up or playing the opposite role and working our way to harder forms of bondage. But our fantasies are happening in the perfect world of our minds. For when there’s another person involved, as much as the role play itself suggests otherwise; considerations must be made.
This is where communication comes in. Don’t jump into bed with rope then work it out as you go along. As spontaneous and fun as that sounds you’re quite likely to keep hearing ‘no not like that’, or ‘not over there’ or ‘too tight’ or ‘what the hell are you doing weirdo get off me’.
The list goes on. Establish well beforehand what it is that you like, what you want to try and what lines must not be crossed. A secret word is always handy. One that means stop.
The word stop itself is likely to be used in role play and even if you mean it and start kicking you partner where the sun don’t shine, they might think it’s all part of the act and like it. So that won’t work.
A colour is always a good idea for a word. Or any word that is completely out of context; like jam. Unless you’re using jam. You get the point.
Rope should be tied with a finger-width gap between the rope and the skin. Remember, bondage should be fun, you shouldn’t pass out from blood restriction. That’s not fun. And it’s probably quite dangerous.
Keep a pair of blunt-tipped scissors nearby just in case. If an area of skin turns pale white or blue, the rope needs to be cut. Never leave a person tied up alone. You might leave to get a glass of water, trip on the way down the stairs, bash your head, black out, and you’re both screwed, and not in the way you want.
Equally if the person tied is left alone and they start to choke or have a random seizure or desperately need to use the loo, then (considering that’s not a fetish of yours) the consequences are not good. Lesson here; just don’t leave. It’s not worth it.